What is resilience?


What is resilience?


I was asked to write a piece about resilience for another publication and have been thinking about it a lot. What is resilience exactly? It doesn’t matter what it is, resilience has been enjoying a renaissance as psychologists, teachers, parents, and corporate leaders discuss why resilience is important and why it’s so lacking among Gen Zers and Millennials. The ability to bounce back from rejection and disappointment is one definition of resilience.

The roots of resilience

These two types of people are common: One who is rejected for a job or doesn’t care about applying for any jobs; and the other who applies for hundreds of jobs and knows that this is part of the game in order to land that job. How do these two types of people get together? This is what I want. Many of the books on resilience I find are self-help and are directed at people who wish to be resilient in the face tragedy, failure, loss, or other circumstances. However, I am having trouble finding reliable sources about the origins of resilience. For example, why one sibling is successful and resilient while the other is not?

External locus of control vs. internal

One of the major differences between resilient and brittle people (i.e. those who are more likely to crumble or break down when confronted with adversity), is their inherent locus for control. This concept is discussed elsewhere, in relation to why Gen Zers have difficulty with everyday things. AnExternal locus of controlInstead of taking responsibility for their actions, they blame the world. This approach to life can be a good one, as it allows you to feel better about the world.They are the world.

They have self-destructive thought patterns such as “The world is unfair”, “Everything is so hard”, “Everyone wants to take advantage” and others. If one believes that the world is unfair and harsh, it is easier to avoid the unpleasant thoughts that they might not have done as well as their peers or failed to try hard enough or were just too lazy. It’s me against the world. Poor me.

An individual who has been convicted of a crime, however, is not eligible for benefits.Internal locus of ControlThe world is seen objectively. Some people are cruel but others are kind; some systems can be corrupt and dysfunctional but some people within those systems can still be good and well-meaning. I am not always safe from the evil eye, but there are others who are trustworthy.If the locus of control is within the person, they can control the world. The world happens to them.This person has a strong sense and personal responsibility. They make decisions and take actions on the world. They will fail at some things, but they will succeed at other. They have the power to control their own lives, and that belief is both healthy and empowering.

Being resilient and realistic about yourself

Resilience also includes the ability to accept one’s limitations, strengths, abilities, as well as goals. It is often said that Millennials and Gen Zers are “entitled” while Gen Zers and Gen Zers are “lazy.” They want the best, and they want it right now. Anyone can become a clickbait addict by the social media-driven clickbait mentality. Their upbringing was influenced by instant gratification via the internet. This influences their descriptions of what they want to do after college, how much they can expect to make, and so on. Now we need to find Frankenstein a job at a juice bar. A healthy sense of proportion is essential for mental health.

Let me give you an example from my life. Recently, I applied for a teaching job at my university. It was the same institution as mine but with better pay and greater job security. My friends said that they were sure I would get the job when I mentioned it to them. You’re a PhD holder and already teach there. Your students love you. It’s a nice way to look at it. Given my experience in rejections on the academic job marketplace, I knew that around 100 people would apply. In fact, 86 did. Some of them would have teaching profiles more closely aligned with the job ad. (I was approximately a 50% match). And who knows what else. When I didn’t get a job interview, I accepted it and was interviewed for a job that aligned with my career path one month later.


I’m a very resilient person. Although I experience disappointment, frustration, and other human emotions just as everyone else, I let them go for a while and then I decide to change the record. That job was not for me. What else is exciting and attractive? I also know that a rejection does not mean I am wrong. It’s an indication that someone else is better suited to the job.

Learning to overcome failure

We see a lot of Gen Zers who want to do everything for their children. This is the worst thing that you can do. Micromanaging your child’s life is a way to take control of them and make them feel incapable of doing things for themselves. These kids are freshmen in college, and I find that they cannot manage their time and long for simpler times.

Read the Resilience Essentials

Children and teens who are unsuccessful in sports, grades and friendships, as well as in romantic relationships, and learn to deal with emotions and figure out next steps on their own, are best candidates for becoming resilient and successful adults. They don’t blame others for what has gone wrong, but rather take responsibility for what can be done better.

Even as adults, I believe we can still learn how to turn the dial internally. How can I be more attractive on the job market and increase the chances of my success? Instead of this, the industry is so corrupt that I wouldn’t want to work there anyway. We can also learn to set realistic goals. Soul searching is a good idea for some people. After I quit my tenure-track job in 2014 and was unable to find a new career path, I needed to restructure my professional identity. Working with a job counselor or life coach may prove more beneficial for others. It is important to cultivate resilience and embrace it fully. The alternative, which can lead to brittleness, failure at disappointments, or crumbling at rejection, is much more difficult to live with.

Published Mon, 12 July 2021 22:49.57 +0000


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