Five Practices for Resilient Relationships

Five Practices for Resilient Relationships

Five Practices for Resilient Relationships

Five Practices for Resilient Relationships

In a relationship where there is little conflict, it’s easy for one to feel secure and confident. However, resilience is built in tough times.

What is a “resilient relation”? It is a relationship that can withstand the stress of conflict and not fall apart, according to me as a communication and conflict specialist. __S.7__ Resilient relationships don’t walk on eggshells. They are flexible like a rubber band. They are flexible and can be stretched, then reassembled.

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Many of us have found that differences in belief about religion and politics can cause tensions with our family members, friends and neighbors. These bonds can become weaker or even irreparable over time, if not managed with the right skills and intention. __S.13__

Quick disclaimer: This article assumes that you seek a stronger relationship to someone who is safe and who shares your interests. If you are unsure about your safety or believe that this is not the case, please seek out a professional.

Five Practices for Resilient Relationships

Resilient relationships are not something that happens by chance. They don’t happen overnight. While resilient relationships can look different from one another, they share a common core. There are many ways to treat each other in a positive way that keeps relationships healthy. However, these five practices can help us build bonds that can withstand conflict.

  1. Being there for one another
  2. Being seen and seeing
  3. Sharing power
  4. Well, disagree well
  5. Take a break

The relationship will end or fracture if any of these practices are not followed. To build lasting relationships, you need to practice all five. You don’t need to do these things perfectly but you must practice them in order to have resilience.

1. 1.

It’s easy to surround yourself with people you agree with and demonize others in our digital media bubble. We need to interact with people from all walks of life if we want strong friendship groups, families and communities. Although it may sound simple, we cannot have strong relationships or relationships at all if we don’t make time to get to know each other. Being intentional in these interactions means showing up.

2. Seeing, Being seen

To see someone is to be open and curious about their inner world. To see, you must first examine the ideas, values and beliefs of your conversation partners. This will help you to understand how they connect with each other, even if you don’t agree. It’s possible to view another person without having to let go of our convictions and opinions. However, it is possible to respect our boundaries. seeing others is a way to honor their humanity and build a stronger relationship.

Being seen can be the flip side of the coin. We invite others to see us when we do the work of seeing them. Being seen is allowing someone to enter your world and letting you see the things that make you tick. It means being passionately and ethically clear about your stance, while still being open to the possibility that your conversation partner might disagree with you. It is a sign of vulnerability and trust to be seen. This means that someone can take our opinions and put them to the test, and it allows us to share who we really are and what has been for us.


3. 3. Sharing power

Sharing power is about practicing equality and avoiding dominance or control. Sharing power means we create space for one another. We can build resilience and strength when conflicts arise when we give everyone space. It’s like adding fuel to a fire when someone feels they don’t have a voice, or that power has been taken away from them.

It can be difficult to see the consequences of how we use power, especially when we think we are right. Sharing power isn’t about saying truths without caring for others or being concerned for their relationships. We risk our credibility as well as trust by failing to share power. Sharing power is about inspiring, not controlling; persuading and not punishing.

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It is difficult to share power, especially for those who have been given a lot of privileges and are taught that they should have more power than others. Resilient relationships are only possible if everyone has a seat at the table.

4. 4.

When relationships can withstand conflict and impasse, they are more resilient. We must learn to manage disagreements instead of running from them.

What does it mean to “disagree well?” What does it mean to “disagree well?” It means to disagree well:

  • Give up on the need to solve. __S.68__ However, if we want to have resilient relationships, it is important to first focus on the stability of the relationship and its long-term health before we force agreement or resolve.
  • Great questions are best asked. __S.71__ You will be able to work like an archeologist, digging up meanings and nuances, and handling everything with great care. This allows them to understand the complexity of another’s point of view so that even they disagree, they can communicate clearly and with care.
  • Eliminating shame. __S.75__ Nobody likes to work in a gotcha! setting. Except in extreme cases, it is much easier to let shame go. Instead of calling out (shaming, or embarrassing), focus on calling in (educating).
  • Invite others to sharpen you. __S.80__ We can learn, teach, and challenge others when we challenge ourselves and those around us.
  • Being truthful. Strong relationships allow us to speak the truth with confidence because we know that the relationship can handle honesty. True friendship is built on truth-telling. It’s crucial that when people disagree with each other, we create an environment that allows everyone to express their true feelings.
  • Thanking you. When someone takes the time and disagrees with us in healthy, thoughtful ways, they are giving us something special. They could have called us names or walked away. But here they are, sticking by us no matter how difficult or uncomfortable. You should express gratitude to those who disagree with you in healthy ways. Healthy disagreement is a sign of resilience.

One of the most important skills to learn for building resilient relationships is the ability to disagree well. It may not be possible to expect everyone to agree on everything, but it is feasible to maintain our relationships even when we disagree.

5. Take a break

It takes a lot of resources to deal with conflict and impasse. To navigate difficult situations, we need to use our time, energy, emotions and resources.

It can be exhausting, especially if the work is long.

If we don’t take a break for too long, it can become a habit to talk about our relationship all the time instead of actually having one. Sometimes, it can seem that our disagreements are the only thing keeping us together. How can we replenish our reserves, and take care of ourselves after we’ve been driving one another up the wall?

Resilient relationships should bounce back, just as a rubber band does after being stretched. We need to stop talking about conflict at some point. The relationship needs to exist. This is how we create the memories that make us who we are, and how we remind ourselves of who we are. Making memories helps us remember the good things we stand up for, despite differences.

In conclusion

There is no obligation to create a strong relationship. We are free to stay in our bubbles and not speak to those who disagree with us. Even if we don’t like someone, we can cut them off.

Consider that there is something lost in all this polarization. These bonds are vital for community health, as well as our personal and collective health. We can only be resilient when we all work together to build strong relationships.


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